To hide your true personality when you meet someone new or someone that you are not fully comfortable with is natural. It would seem that not being yourself is like a defense mechanism. You are still in the process of figuring out if the person you just met is worth putting your best face on for, leading to not being your true self. How does one know who exactly they truly? We are around other people for such a large part of our day, how do we really know who we are if we're constantly hiding ourselves from the world? When are we really ourselves? Getting to know who you are is a big part of how your life goes, and I think that it is important to know who you really are before you make a life commitment to someone. Knowing who you are helps shape your life, and if you're just pretending to act like someone that you're not in order to impress someone, what is the point?
What does it mean when I say that you are the key to your own success?
Success is earned by you. When it comes to your own success, you are the key. There is no one in this world who wants to be successful at the goal that you are aiming at as much as you, there is no one in this world that will be as upset as you when you don't hit your goal. If you feel like nobody is there for you, or you don't have anybody to guide you in your decision making or the things that you do in life, that you don't have any support to help you get through the day, good. Because the people that are most successful in this world are the ones that realize that their fate sits on THEIR shoulders, not anyone else's. When you come to this conclusion, you are going to be way more successful than you ever would have thought. That cliche phrase "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" in all of life seems to be true, especially when you're in it alone. Realizing that nobody is going to help you and that you have to figure out out by yourself is the best thing, because once this thought hits you, you open up your mind to so many different ideas. You can do anything, you don't need someone sitting behind you to catch you if you fall. And if you do fall, you get back up, shake it off and keep going. It is only going to make you want it more.
Success is like running a marathon. You start out by the idea of what you want to be successful at, forming your plans around that idea, trying to jump start a plan to get yourself moving towards that goal. So you prepare for it, you run every day before the marathon, every day adding one more mile to your run so by the time the race rolls around, you are running an average of 25.2 miles a day, and that very next day you will hit your goal of being able to run 26.2 miles. You are the one that pushes yourself to get up every day, and run. You are the one that keeps nagging yourself to never give up, that soon enough, that day will come that you will finally reach your goal. Just like a marathon, success isn't something that you can jump into unprepared. Preparation and acting on that preparation is 100% of the battle.